A lot of gay men are afraid to attend sex parties because they don’t know what to expect. But they should be open to new experiences and sexy kinks.
Those expectations can be based on pop culture depictions of group sex. But the truth is sexy kink parties aren’t like porn movies.
1. Know the Rules
Unless you’ve been to an orgy before, your concept of what to expect is probably based on porn movies or other pop culture depictions. In reality, a group sex party is much different.
For one thing, the lighting and music are very important to set the tone. The organizers of the event should be sure to play softer, more sensual music than what you might hear in a club or a bar. Similarly, they should choose the lighting carefully to create a mood that makes people feel safe and encouraged.
Another important part of the ambiance is the food. It’s important to keep in mind the dietary needs of your guests and provide food that will work well for them. For example, if you are hosting a party full of black gay men, it might be best to avoid serving anything too garlicky or too dairy.
It’s also very important to greet your guests warmly and make them feel welcome. This helps to break the ice and will make them more comfortable throughout the night.
2. Be Respectful
One of the best gay sex orgy tips is to be respectful. You should not show up with a group of people unless you are invited by the host. Also, you should not take pictures at the sex party because it will make people uncomfortable. Plus, you never know where those photos will end up.
You should also dress nicely and use deodorant and toothpaste before the sexy party. Also, don’t try to hook up with everyone in the room because it will be awkward and inappropriate. Instead, try to hook up with hot guys that are looking for someone to take their cock.
A good tip for going to a gay sex orgy is to bring some extra alcohol in case the host runs out of drinks midway through the party. It’s also helpful to have a few different types of liquor so you can mix up your sexual concoctions. Also, you should give your hosts a lot of thanks on the way out because they probably have a mess to clean up.
3. Don’t Bare Back
There are a number of different types of gay sex parties that take place in private homes and other venues. Some are open to all, some are by invitation only and others are spread through word of mouth. Some are large dance/play parties that have a back room where kinky guys can go to play in the dark and be more anonymous.
In these darker rooms, there can be a lot of sucking, stroking and groping, and sometimes even breeding. It is important to use anal lube for this type of sexual activity to prevent damage to the anal wall. It is also important to have a lot of condoms available as well as trash receptacles and hot showers. Music should be played that will put guests in a playful, adventurous mood. House music can work well in a main space while light industrial or international music might be more appropriate for the back room.
Gay sex orgies can be fun and exciting but don’t get stuck in a party rut. It is easy to become bored with the same old routine so it is important to mix things up and try new kinky experiences.
4. Be Safe
Gay men have an array of sexual options. Some of them prefer safer sex, while others are looking for more extreme sex. It’s not uncommon for some of these men to attend orgy parties. While these parties can be very sexual, there are certain rules that must be followed in order to be safe.
Having an open mind and respecting other people’s boundaries are the keys to enjoying yourself at any gay sex party. It’s also important to know what you want and to set clear expectations before attending. For example, if you are a top, you may not want to bottom for every person that approaches you at the sex party.
It’s also a good idea to bring plenty of lube and to use condoms during all sexual activities at a gay sex orgy. This will protect you from diseases such as HIV and AIDS. You should also avoid using any lubricants that contain alcohol or caffeine. It’s best to stick to natural lubes like silicone, glycerin and beeswax. Finally, it’s a good idea to drink water to stay hydrated.
5. Don’t Take Extreme Photos
A gay sex orgy is usually an intimate gathering where guests get together to have some fun. These events aren’t advertised online or stamped on flyers stuffed under windshield wipers. Rather, these are invitation-only, secret parties that take place in private homes and apartments.
Most people who attend sex parties like to use aliases and/or fake names so that their identity isn’t discovered by someone they know who may not be at the party. Using aliases and nicknames is also a good idea when making calls and texting.
Many hosts of sex parties will request that you leave your camera at home for obvious reasons. Taking pictures at sex parties is just not a smart idea. Not only is it inappropriate but you never know who these photos might end up in the hands of. Instead, you should focus on getting sexy and dirty with the guys at the sex orgy. Taking wide shots of the crowd and group selfies can be distracting for your host and other party-goers. Plus, it gives away that you are there to sex.